So have you ever found yourself saying, "Who left this bathroom looking like this?" Or "Who left the kitchen and dishes like this?" I know I have and often I would ask these questions either after a long work day, or getting ready, for a long work day. I learned to STOP using "Who" questions when I was upset or being sarcastic with my children/teens. As my tone could hurt and add to the challenge. I found that using questions that start with, "How" and "What" would make the difference between me losing my mind, or one of my son's getting "Jacked up!"
Parenting Tip: Self-Talk is great if used correctly I now tell myself. "What can I do right now to stay calm?" "How can I create a chore system that we as a family can live with?"