My son's first response always centered on shutting down, when he found himself up against a personal challenge. I would become frustrated because I wanted him to talk it out. I didn't understand why he would always "shut down." Until I asked the question. He turned to me and said.

"Dad I have watched you for years "shut down" when you’re faced with problems and adversities." 

Now parents I have to be honest, as my first thought was to slap him. My second thought was, "I know he didn't just tell me about myself! When I pay all the bills…” Parents you know how we do. He was right. I just didn't know he was watching. Every experience teaches you about yourself, if you are willing to truly see yourself.